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Yes, there is a lot that you can do. The first thing is to give them nothing they can object to, outside of the bare fact that you want to marry 'outside'. Remain respectful, make it clear that you will only marry with the blessing of all four parents -but that you will simply never marry anyone else. Do nothing reprehesible. Resist the temptation to elope or live together or something like that -in the end, you would be likely to lose your family and your special friend as well. I hope you know how to keep your hands to yourselves -chastity is really worth it, and is the best investment you can make now. If your conduct remains above reproach, and still your parents object to your marriage because the young man is White, they will ultimately be left with this isolated fact: their lingering racism = their problem. ...and there's another thing. If you can remain chaste, and gently but firmly resist your family's attempts to marry you off to someone else they find suitable, bear in mind that there is often an interesting shift in power when the still-unmarried 'child' gets to be about twenty-five years old. I know two fellows and a young lady who all ended up in this situation. The families badgered them horribly back when they were in their early twenties. But by the time they were over twenty-five, the parents were crying and dying and begging them to please, please just get married -to anyone you like, just remove this shame from us, etc etc... and now all are married, have bright children, brilliant careers, and stellar relations with the families and in-laws. ...If your friend goes along with this and sticks by you, this is a gem that you've got.

awww mr. fettslaab thats really sweet and beautifully said! I applaud you sir!

Thank you for your advice, fettslaab :) Oh and I made a typo in my thing... I said we want to get married in a years I meant to say FEW years.

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