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that sucks!

I dunno what the big deal is, I started university in Fall 2009, my university is in downtown Toronto, while I live in a suburban town north of Toronto (around 2 hours away from campus). I still live with my parents and commute everyday to school, trust me, living with your ultra-desi parents is way better than living alone in a crappy dorm. Some people here are just too American. >.>

I really feel for u. I don't no what Ali's talking about because the same thing was going to happen to me. My Uni is two hours away as well and my parents were so close to moving but thank goodness they didn't. Dorms might be crappy but they're part of college life and a great experience. The freedom you gain living alone is so worth it. It also teaches you to be more independent and responsible through your own mistakes, and not because your parents tell you not to do things that they feel is wrong.

desigurl is just whitewashed, desi's have the strongest family values and that's our parents want to keep an eye on us and take care of us. While white people usually kick their kids out at 18 and say good luck. Desigurl wants to live in a dorm because she is white washed into living like that of a typical american, sex, drugs and drinking all day. Lets see what guy wants you at rishta time LOL

Wow. What a completely rediculous and ignorant claim to make Cancore. I wouldn't say that desigurl is "whitewashed." Rather, you're stuck in a cultural stereotype.

OH so Indian values are just cultural stereotypes? I strongly disagree Odost. Maybe it is not us who are "stuck in an indian stereotype" but you who has "alienated yourself from your identity." I'm not commenting on what Cancore said, but I like his mentality. I think you need to rather reconsider your approach. As desigurl said "living in a dorm is part of a college experience", living with your parents until they think you are old enough to live independently is a pure Desi experience. Now that you get down to it, its all about choices in life spurred from individual family/personal beliefs. Good day.

It's not a matter of Indian values or being "white washed", if you can commute to your university in a convenient manner (i.e. just takes me only one train to get there) then I don't see why your parents even want to move, you have all the freedom you want while you're on campus grounds if you convince your parents to not move with you, and you can keep them happy by not moving away. I was accepted in a university in British Columbia but ended up going to the one in Toronto just to save money (saving $10,000 ftw). If you are not in such a situation, then yeah it sucks because you feel you have matured enough to live by yourself, while your parents disagree and want you to stay till you get married, it's not only desi parents who don't jump with joy with the idea of their 18 year old daughter moving away, many other cultures do the same, but not being able to move out until you're married is totally desi. :P

haha I really find it funny when you claim that I'm "whitewashed" because in fact I'm not and I love my parents a lot. I just also enjoy living by myself and taking responsibility for everything I do. Even my parents have noticed a good change in me since I no how to cook more and better than I used to. I love not relying on my parents and as for the drinking and drugs part I don't do that. My idea of having fun is to hang out with sone close friends. I might go to a club but I don't drink. And the choices I make are my own, not my parents'.

oh, and also.. the thing you said about rishtas... I will be so glad if i get none because I do not believe in arranged marriages. I don't need to because I already have a fiance.

Priyam...I was obviously being sarcastic..but the shit he says is completely absurd.

Odost...I didn't see a hint in sarcasm in the statement "you're stuck in a cultural stereotype." You could have been joking....

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