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Doing graduate degrees after getting married can be very trying, even if you've got the support of the extended family with the obligatory babies and cooking and the ceaseless, merciless household laphRaa. There is something else about this choice you have to think of. Right now, you have to justify pursuing your studies and career before getting tied to a man and his family. That's bad enough. But after, you will have to justify your need for further education. Your every initiative will be scrutinised and judged for its usefulness to your new family. ...Well, maybe not. What would I know. I've seen one exception. But this was an exceptional couple that had left India and married across caste -when they were almost thirty!

Fettslaab, you definitely right about how difficult it is to do a graduate degree after getting married. I've got a cousin who's going through the same thing (getting a master's w/a husband, inlaws and a 1 year old) and she seems so exhausted and miserable all the time since she also has a baby to take care of in addition to school and family/ the in-laws. I feel so bad for her and thank God every day my parents have never pressured me to get married (I'm 23) and I know they never will b/c its just not a big deal to them. I can only hope people who have to go through the constant nagging/pressue to get married won't do that to their own children when that day comes.

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